by Lindsay Germain
Lots of us feel depressed when our babies are young. Maybe you’ve been there with your last baby, or maybe you know someone who struggled with postpartum depression. It’s easy to get scared about losing yourself, and feeling low when you bring your baby home. It can also be hard to believe – Having a baby is supposed to be the most fulfilling time, right? Or is it?
There are real challenges in parenting for each of us. Every parent has days where we feel overwhelmed. The tricky part is figuring out how to manage these days, and how to relate to ourselves and our loved ones when we’re struggling.
There is a way to navigate overwhelm, discouragement, hopelessness, and even despair without getting lost in the woods forever. Continue reading
by Lindsay Germain
There is so much judgement in our culture toward mamas. From pregnancy to parenthood, our interactions are filled with unsolicited stories and advice. It’s enough to feel exhausted, and more than a bit misunderstood.
Yet, you are the best person to know what’s right for yourself and your baby. You’re the only one with the ability to sense the choices that are right for you. Maybe a tip worked perfectly for one mama with her babies, but wouldn’t work for you at all. Or maybe, just maybe, it’s okay to say, “no thanks,” to hearing a third traumatic birth story today.
So many people have been left alone with strong feelings about their pregnancy, birth, and parenting experiences and really need an outlet to talk about them. Then, you walk by, and your sweet round belly reminds them of all the stuff they haven’t yet worked through. And voila! You’ve become a therapist who – unbeknownst to you, has been enlisted to help this person process those feelings.
Well, it’s about time for you to get to choose. You can set a beautiful boundary that makes space to stay grounded and centered in nurturing yourself and your baby. Here’s how. Continue reading
By Lindsay K. Germain
Maya sits at the table, slowly taking a bite or two, and then says she’s done with her meal. She doesn’t like most of the foods she tries, and she often calls a food her favorite one week and then hates it the next.
Can you guess how old she is? If she was 35, we’d really worry about her, wouldn’t we? And since she’s justturning four, we don’t need to. Developmentally, she’s just like lots of kids her age. In the long run, she’s likely to become a good eater, expanding the variety of foods she eats.
Meanwhile, how do we support her to get her nutritional needs met? Here are my favorite ways to support children developing healthy food habits. These tips will support healthy changes in the long-term: Continue reading
from Hand in Hand Parenting‘s Parent Rescue Service
[One of the most common aggravations parents experience] is when your child throws tantrums, especially in public!
There are certain common situations in which young children can become emotionally charged. Here are just a few of them.
- Being with several people: being with the whole family at dinner, at a family gathering, a meeting, a birthday party, the grocery store, church, or temple.
- Moving from one activity to another: leaving home for day care; leaving day care for home; stopping play for dinner; and going to bed.
- Being with a parent who is under stress: the parent is cooking, cleaning, shopping, trying to finish a task on time, or is upset because there’s so little help.
- At the end of any especially close or fun-filled time: after a trip to the park; after a good friend leaves; after wrestling, chasing, or laughing with Mom or Dad.
- When your child bursts out with feelings, slow down the action, and listen. Listen until he is done. Because of this cry, your whole day and his will improve.
Here’s what we encourage you to try. Continue reading